Do you ever feel like you’re pretending to be something that you just… aren’t? Don’t worry, we’ve all been there before.
Read this blog to help you learn why we can feel like imposters and how to help you feel like you belong.
Introduction:
Did you know that around 70% of adults experience something known as “impostor syndrome” at least once in their lifetime? You might already know that an impostor is someone who pretends to be someone else. When a person experiences impostor syndrome, also known as impostorism, they might feel like a fraud or like they are faking their abilities and successes. This feeling persists even when there is clear evidence that says otherwise.
Explanation:
Many people who experience impostor syndrome also struggle with perfectionism. Perfectionism is a trait that pushes people to set incredibly high standards and expectations for themselves. Ultra-competitive environments can trigger some of these perfectionist tendencies.
Many psychologists also believe that impostorism can be associated with a lack of representation. For example, when there aren’t many people who look like us or share our background that are shown in the media or our career field, it may foster feelings of impostorism.
Reflection:
Have you experienced impostor syndrome yourself? Here are some questions to ask yourself:
Do I downplay my successes?
Am I overly conscious of my flaws?
Have I ever felt like a phony?
Do I attribute my successes to luck or good timing?
Do I feel unqualified or incompetent?
Steps to Take:
Everyone has felt like an impostor at one point in their lives, and that’s okay. But if you find yourself doubting your abilities so much that it gets in the way of pursuing your dreams, there are a few things you can do to combat these feelings. One idea is to make a list of things you have accomplished that are beyond question.
Another way to counteract these nagging feelings is to start repeating daily affirmations to yourself that reinforce the idea that you are worthy and qualified.
Some ideas for affirmations might be:
I am worthy
I am smart
I am enough
I am talented
I am capable
I deserve this
I am meant to be here
I am proud of myself
It can feel stressful to have these thoughts and feelings of fraud and inadequacy, especially when we start being recognized for our accomplishments and our work. Impostorism might arise when applying to college, starting your first real job or internship, or receiving a scholarship or award. Above all, make sure you don’t let these feelings of inadequacy make you turn down a valuable opportunity.
Talking to a mentor about your feelings can help you to manage these negative thoughts. Mentors, teachers, family, and friends might share these feelings or be able to help you recognize that you are qualified and capable.
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